Goals
I had my appointment with the breast reconstructive surgery last Monday and even though it definitely felt awkward, I got a lot of my questions answered and I have a goal to work towards.
I found out that I won't be able to do the mastectomy and the reconstruction at the same time like I was hoping I could. I'm definitely disappointed by that, but thankfully, since I REALLY don't want to go flat, I have the option to have expanders put in until I am cleared for the reconstruction surgery. I had thought a LOT about it before and I don't think I would take it well going completely flat. I already have body issues and I know this would make it worse. I was told this is definitely common and shouldn't be a problem.
She did tell me that I will need to lose weight before is even be a candidate for reconstruction surgery. Basically, I'll have to lose at LEAST 40lbs, which is already a goal anyway. And I've lost 10 lbs since seeing the endocrinologist!! The doc told me that I can get the mastectomy any time that I'm ready... before or after having another baby... and then we'd plan for the reconstruction surgery.
As of right now, the plan is still to wait on any of the surgeries for about 2-3 years. This way, we will have HOPEFULLY paid off all or most of our debt (thanks to following Financial Peace University) and will have saved up some money for deductible and for me to be out of work for recovery time. And of course, we hope to have another baby within the next year. My current weight loss goal is so I can have a healthy pregnancy.
Right now, I've been praying for continued weight loss and also to be able to get through December and even enjoy it whenever possible. Ever since my mom died, December has been INCREDIBLY hard. Not only did she pass awayin December, but Christmas was her favorite holiday. Anybody who's lost a loved one can tell you that the holidays can be freaking hard. This year though, I've been actively trying to work through my grief and try to make it a great year..... Or at least better than last year. I can't let my grief take hold of me in every foreseeable December. It's not fair to my husband or my daughter or really, to me. My focus should be on the birth of Christ and celebrating that with my family and friends, NOT focusing on missing my mom, even though that feeling will never go away. Normally, December 1st-31st is always difficult. So far, 5 days in, I've done pretty well, although today has been a bout tougher. I blame part of that on the yucky weather though.
I have been working through some books and devotions on grieving and have found them to be get helpful so far! Here are a few that I've read/am reading:
*Surviving the Holidays Without You by Gary Roe (there are also done great resources on his website- garyroe.com)
*Motherless Daughters by Hope Edelman
* Grief Survivor by Beth Marshall (devotion read on Youversion app)
(((I'll add to the list as I get through more.)))
I found out that I won't be able to do the mastectomy and the reconstruction at the same time like I was hoping I could. I'm definitely disappointed by that, but thankfully, since I REALLY don't want to go flat, I have the option to have expanders put in until I am cleared for the reconstruction surgery. I had thought a LOT about it before and I don't think I would take it well going completely flat. I already have body issues and I know this would make it worse. I was told this is definitely common and shouldn't be a problem.
She did tell me that I will need to lose weight before is even be a candidate for reconstruction surgery. Basically, I'll have to lose at LEAST 40lbs, which is already a goal anyway. And I've lost 10 lbs since seeing the endocrinologist!! The doc told me that I can get the mastectomy any time that I'm ready... before or after having another baby... and then we'd plan for the reconstruction surgery.
As of right now, the plan is still to wait on any of the surgeries for about 2-3 years. This way, we will have HOPEFULLY paid off all or most of our debt (thanks to following Financial Peace University) and will have saved up some money for deductible and for me to be out of work for recovery time. And of course, we hope to have another baby within the next year. My current weight loss goal is so I can have a healthy pregnancy.
Right now, I've been praying for continued weight loss and also to be able to get through December and even enjoy it whenever possible. Ever since my mom died, December has been INCREDIBLY hard. Not only did she pass awayin December, but Christmas was her favorite holiday. Anybody who's lost a loved one can tell you that the holidays can be freaking hard. This year though, I've been actively trying to work through my grief and try to make it a great year..... Or at least better than last year. I can't let my grief take hold of me in every foreseeable December. It's not fair to my husband or my daughter or really, to me. My focus should be on the birth of Christ and celebrating that with my family and friends, NOT focusing on missing my mom, even though that feeling will never go away. Normally, December 1st-31st is always difficult. So far, 5 days in, I've done pretty well, although today has been a bout tougher. I blame part of that on the yucky weather though.
I have been working through some books and devotions on grieving and have found them to be get helpful so far! Here are a few that I've read/am reading:
*Surviving the Holidays Without You by Gary Roe (there are also done great resources on his website- garyroe.com)
*Motherless Daughters by Hope Edelman
* Grief Survivor by Beth Marshall (devotion read on Youversion app)
(((I'll add to the list as I get through more.)))
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